内容简介

Our earliest experiences shape our lives far down the road, and What Happened to You? provides powerful scientific and emotional insights into the behavioral patterns so many of us struggle to understand.

“Through this lens we can build a renewed sense of personal self-worth and ultimately recalibrate our responses to circumstances, situations, and relationships. It is, in other words, the key to reshaping our very lives.”―Oprah Winfrey

This book is going to change the way you see your life.

Have you ever wondered "Why did I do that?" or "Why can't I just control my behavior?" Others may judge our reactions and think, "What's wrong with that person?" When questioning our emotions, it's easy to place the blame on ourselves; holding ourselves and those around us to an impossible standard. It's time we started asking a different question.

Through deeply personal conversations, Oprah Winfrey and renowned brain and trauma expert Dr. Bruce Perry offer a groundbreaking and profound shift from asking “What’s wrong with you?” to “What happened to you?”

Here, Winfrey shares stories from her own past, understanding through experience the vulnerability that comes from facing trauma and adversity at a young age. In conversation throughout the book, she and Dr. Perry focus on understanding people, behavior, and ourselves. It’s a subtle but profound shift in our approach to trauma, and it’s one that allows us to understand our pasts in order to clear a path to our future―opening the door to resilience and healing in a proven, powerful way.

作者简介

Through the power of media, Oprah Winfrey has created an unparalleled connection with people around the world. As host and supervising producer of the top-rated, award-winning The Oprah Winfrey Show, she entertained, enlightened, and uplifted millions of viewers for twenty-five years. Her accomplishments as a global media leader and philanthropist have established her as one of...

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精彩摘录

屏幕时间（screentime）对我们也有很大的影响。在家里，在工作中，在学校，我们每天花费在屏幕前的时间超过十一个小时。我们的家庭聚餐次数大大减少了。我们的对话技能正在衰退，讲故事的技艺和倾听的能力都在减弱。其结果就是总体性地只关注自我，更加焦虑，更加压抑，遭遇创伤后的复原能力也更差。

——引自章节：第九章 当代世界的关系贫困

一个人无法给予自己没有得到的东西。如果没有人跟你说话，你就不会说话；如果你从未被爱过，你就无法爱别人。

——引自章节：第九章 当代世界的关系贫困